I Want a Sarkari Job, Not a Sarkari Husband

Somewhere along the way, society decided that a woman’s ultimate career achievement was finding a man with a government job. Apparently, clearing competitive examinations is optional if you can successfully clear the examination conducted by someone’s parents.Imagine studying for years, sacrificing sleep, memorising entire textbooks, and competing against lakhs of candidates, only to be told, “Beta, ladka government employee hai.”Congratulations! Apparently, you have found the shortcut to success. Who needs personal achievements when you can acquire them 
through marriage?I have noticed that the moment a girl reaches a certain age, relatives suddenly transform into recruitment agencies. They begin searching for suitable candidates with the seriousness of a national security operation. Government employee? Excellent. Permanent job? Even better. Own house? Outstanding. Salary? Please provide the complete breakdown, including allowances.Meanwhile, nobody seems particularly interested in asking the girl what she wants to become.
Does she want to become a doctor? A professor? An officer? Perhaps she wants to build a career, travel the world, or simply earn enough money to buy things without explaining every purchase to another human being.Unfortunately, these ambitions sometimes receive less attention than the employment status of a man she has never even met.
And the funniest part? The girl herself might be preparing for the exact same government examination.
Imagine two people preparing for the same competitive exam, except one is expected to clear it while the other is expected to become the reason someone else’s daughter-in-law sleeps peacefully at night.
Sir, respectfully, I want the appointment letter, not the appointment with your son.I want the government salary credited to MY bank account. I want the security of MY job, the confidence of MY achievements, and the freedom to make decisions about MY life. I do not want to spend years preparing for an examination just to become an impressive addition to somebody else’s matrimonial advertisement.
And before anyone misunderstands me, there is absolutely nothing wrong with marrying a government employee. There is nothing wrong with wanting a financially stable partner, either. 
A healthy relationship can be beautiful, and financial stability matters.But why is a man’s employment considered a woman’s security blanket when she can work towards building her own security?
Why are girls encouraged to search for a man who can provide them with stability instead of being equally encouraged to become financially independent themselves?
A government job is not a personality. A respectable salary does not automatically make someone a respectful partner. And a marriage certificate is certainly not an employment guarantee.
Dear girls, by all means, fall in love. Get married if you want to. Find someone who respects you, supports your ambitions, and celebrates your achievements without feeling threatened by them.
But please, do not abandon your own dreams because someone promises to take care of you.Learn to earn. Learn to manage your money. Understand your rights. Build skills, pursue 
opportunities, and create a life in which your choices are not entirely dependent on somebody else’s willingness to provide.Because the goal is not to prove that you do not need anyone. The goal is to ensure that you never have to stay somewhere simply because you cannot afford to leave.So, respectfully, I would like to withdraw my application for a sarkari husband.
I am currently preparing for the position of financially independent woman.And unlike marriage, I intend to earn this appointment letter myself.