What do we want?

Love is one the strangest thing humans have ever experienced. You cannot hold it in hands or measure it with ruler or buy is online and yet it has starred wars and ended wars and inspired masterpieces and convinced people that driving three hours just to spend thity minutes with some one is somehow a perfectly reasonable idea.

As ten people what love is and they you will get ten different answers. A poet might call the language of the soul. A scientist might explain it as a cocktail of dopamine, oxytocin, seratonin and other a other few chemicals making your brian temporarily lose its ability to think logically m your grandmother would say " It is making sure that someone has eaten". Somehow all of them are right.

Emotionally live is the feeling of finding a place where you don't have to perform m it is the releif of being understood without needing to explain every little thought in your head. If is laughing so hard with your stomach that it hurts sitting in comfortable silence without feeling awkward or instictively reaching for your phone because they are the first person you want to tell when something good or terrible happens.

Physically love is fascinating. Your heart does not actually " Skip a beat " but your body certainly behaves differently.bykur brains releases chemicals that make you feel happier and calmber and more connected. A hug can lower stress harmones. Holding someone's hand can reduce anxiety. Even looking into the eyes of someone you deeply care about can activate parts of the brain associated with reward and trust. It turns out the phrase " Love heals " is not entirely poetic and biology agreed more than we expect.

Philosophically love is even more intresting. It forces us to stop living for ourselves. Suddenly another person's happiness matter almost as much as our own. We begin making decisions with " we " instead of " me ". Love quietly teaches empathy, patience, sacrifice and forgiveness not because anyone hands is a textbook bit because carrying someone natiralochanges the way we see the world.

What is funny is that love is not limited to resources. We live our parents in our way our closest friends in another and our pets in another. Some people love books and rainy afternoon and old songs or the smell of coffee more passionately than they live most humans. Live has hundreds of different accents bit somehow we recognise every one of them.

Now imagine a world without love. No parents staying awake with a sick child. No friends showing up when life falls apart. No Grandparents saving your childhood drawing. No teachers beleiving in students who don't believe in themselves. No artists creating music because someone broken their heart. No people adapting abonded animals. No wedding and no lullaby and no inside joke and no " text me when you reach home"

The world probably function. People would go to work and eat dinner and pay bills and catch trains in time. But it feels mechanical like a perfectly build machine with no music playing inside it. And that is why love matters so much. It does not only makes life happier but also makes us human.

Happiness is probably the most chased thing in the world. And ironically the harder we cause it the more it seems to run away. We convince ourselves that we will finally be happy after getting that promotion or buying that phone or losing kilos or graduating or meeting " the one ". Then we reach that milestonex celebrate for a few days and our brain quietly move the finish line somewhere else.

It is almost like happiness enjoys playing hide and seek. Ask people what happiness is and you will hear wildly different answer. For one person it is traveling the world. Dor another it is spending time with the family. Some fimd happiness in winning competition while others find in watering plants or watching the rain from the window. That is what makes happiness di fascinating. It has no universal shape. It changes from person to person and even from one stage of life to another.

Emotionally happiness in not endless excitement or constant laughter. It is much more quieter than that. It the feeling of contentment with life even for a brief moment. It is laughing with with your friends until your cheek hurt. Finishing a book you could read a hundred times. Hearing your favourite song unexpectedly. Saying the same word as your friend at the same time without knowing.

Philosophically happiness raises an interesting question: It is something we find or something we create?

Many ancient thinkers believed happiness was not about pleasure at all. They argued that true happiness comes form living with purpose and building meaningful relationship and becoming the best version of yourself. And modern psychology agrees.

One of the biggest myth about happiness is that successful people are always happier. In reality happiness and success often work in opposite direction. People who are generally happier tend to build stronger relationship and solve problems more effectively and recover from setbacks more effectively. Happiness is not always the reward at the end of the journey. It can also be the girl that keeps the journey going.

Now imagine a world without happiness. Birthday would be just dates. Music would become background noise. Sunsets would simply be change in the lighting. Children would stop laughing for no reason. Victories would feel empty. We would survive but survive is not the same as living.

May be happiness was never meant to be a permenent destination. May be it is the collection of small moments that reminds us life is worth experiencing. And perhaps that is enough. After all if happiness lasted forever we might stop recognising goe beautiful it is when it arrives.

PURPOSE is one of those words that sounds incredibly important yet feels impossible to define. Ask a child what a purpose is and they will probably tell you that they want to become a astronaut or a superhero. Ask an adult and you might get a long pause and they would probably tell "I am still trying to figure things out". The truth is that most of us spend a good part of our lives searching for purpose often beleiving it is hidden somewhere far waya when it might already be quietly shaping out everyday choices.

Many people imagine purpose as one grand mission. A single reason they were born. It sounds romantic but also exhausting. If purpose is one extraordinary things then what happens if we don't achive it? Or what happens after we achive it? Does that mean our lives have no meaning? I don't think so.

Emotionally purpose is feelings hat your existence matters to someone or something beyond yourself. It is waking up with a reason to get up instead when your alarm clock said so. For some a purpose is raising a family. For others it is creating a art, teaching children, healing patients, writing stories and solving scientific problems. Purpose downs not have to famous and big. It can be beautifully simple.

From a psychologicak perspective , purpose gives our brain direction. Humans are naturally goal oriented creature. When we walk towards something meaningful our brains reward is with motivation and satisfaction. It is as though having a reason to keep moving forward helps us carry life's heavier moments.

Philosophically purpose is fascinating because it raises one of humanitys oldest question: Why are we here? Skem believesm purpose is something that we are born with while others arhue that it is not created it is discovered. I like the second idea. We are building our lives ourselves through our actions and relationships and choices.

Now imagine a world without purpose. People would still wake up and give to work and eat meals and go to sleep and the cycle continues. Schools would open. Trains would be on time. But everythingw ould be strangely empty. Without purpose achivement would feel meaningless because there would be no reason to chase them. Achivements and prices and competition does not even make sense. We don't even know towards what we are goinga dn why we are doing this. It would be zombie apocalypse happened.

Maybe purpose is not about changing the world but changing the tiny corner of the world you can actually reach. A kind teacher or a devoted friend or a compassionate donar or a patient parent or someone who simply makes others feel seen can have a purpose that is as meaningful as any famous world leader or a international athelete.

People often say Health is wealth. It is such a common phrase that we rarely stop to think about what is actually means. But the older I get the more I realise that those three words might be some of the truthful advice ever given. Health and Wealth are two things almost everyone spends their life persuing. One helps us live comfortably while the other allows us to truly enjoy that comfort. The intresting part is that most of people often sacrifice one to gain another only to spend years trying to get the other one back.

When we hear about the word heath, most of us immediately think about going to gym and athu vegetable or getting enough sleep. While physical health is important, true health is much bigger than that. It is waking up with enough energy to enjoy the day. It is having a peaceful mind that is not constantly stressed. It is being able to laugh freely and move freely and breathe deeply and spend time with the people you love without your body holding back. Health is not just the absence of illness...it is the presence of well being.

Science constantly reminds us how connected out bodies and minds really are. Regular exercise improved mood, quality sleep strengthen memory, healthy food fuels our brain and even meaningful conversations can reduce stress. We often think of health as something we notice only when it is gone but in reality it is quietly supporting every moment of our lives.

Then there is Wealth...a world that usually makes people think of money. And while financial security is undinably important, wealth is often misunderstood. Money cannot buy comfort, education, oppertunity, travel and freedom from many everyday worries. Having enough to support yourself and your family is not something to feel guilty about. Financial stability creates choices and choice often create a peace of mind.

The problem begins when wealth becimaer the destination instead of tool. It is easy to believe that happiness is always one promotion, one salary increase or one expensive purchase away. But human being are remarkably good at adapting. Today's dream car becames tomorrow's natural commute. The phone you could wait to buy because just another object in your packet. Wealth improves lives and by itself it rarely fills the deeper need for meaning relationship or joys.

Imagine having unlimited money but constantly feeling exhausted, anxious it too unwell to enjoy any of it. On the other hand, imagine being perfectly healthy but struggling every day to afford basic necessities. Neither picture feels complete. That is because the health and wealth and not rivals...they are partners. One gives us the ability to live and other gives us the resources to shape the life we want.