The many Versions of you

You are not the same person with everyone.

With your bestfriend you may be loud sarcastic and completely ridiculous. With your parents you may become quiter. With your manager you choose your words carefully. With a client you are polite and professional. With a stranger you are more reserved.

But there can be dimensions in you for each of your office co workers. With some you can be kind knowing they will never use that and it will be re paid to you in one way or another.

You have to be sharp with someone and keep them within limits to protect your sanity, your work, and your everything. But in the outside it should seem professional.

You have to be polite to soem people who got influence no matter how much of a douche bag they are. They will be having your oppertunities in their foot and you cannot ask for it normally. You have to learn how to speak with them in a language that these kind of people understand.

There will be some people who live to rage bait people in general. It is very important that you ignore them.

There will be a poor sould who cannot do anything without guidence no matter how much you help them. You can try and help them for few times but you cannot do that forever because in corporate world, the time is gold.

Be kind with everyone who is kind. The polite with the person who you need to be polite with.

Adapting your behaviour does noteans you are abandoning your values. You can change your tone without changing your integrity. You can be professional without becoming dishonest. You can be polite without agreeing to everything. You can understand office politics without becoming a manipulator.

The goal is not to show everyone the exact same version of you. The goal is to remain the same person at core while understanding that different solutions require different behaviour. You don't speak to your boos like your best friend. You don't negotiate with your client the way that you argue with your sibling. And you shouldn't.

Growing up menas understanding that authenticity does not mean saying everything you think to everyone you meet. Sometimes the most authentic version of you is the one who knows exactly which problems requires which solution.

Everyone who is nice to you is not your friend. They may or may not need anything from you. But you have to stay in the limits and boundries.